Chapter 9
Swinging Correspondence and the Charisma o f the Three Way Female (A)
The phenomenon of erotic letter-writing has increased in quantity perhaps a hundredfold over the last few years of the sexual revolution. As most of the correspondents contact each other through swinger magazines, the subject is just as well recognized, if not more so, by the title "swinging correspondence."
Much of what is said in so many of the thousands of letters that my researchers and I have obtained from swinging correspondents is nothing more than the figment of the imagination, the sex fantasy of the writer. Men often pose as young women and pen highly erotic and dramatic experiences, but frequently make such blundering errors as describing "the copious ejaculation of the girl," that one may wonder if they have ever had sex at all with a female.
I have decided then to divide the swinging correspondents into three distinct groups for the purpose of presentation here. In this first chapter dealing with them, I will include only correspondence that I sincerely believe or reasonably know to be factual and conducted between Americans only.
Actually, the letters, whether factual, exaggerated, or complete fantasy, are probably a more accurate measure of the individual's mind than anything else. In correspondence with each other (which they think will never be seen by others, much less a psychologist), they are completely free and unrestrained. They are not being used as "guinea pigs" or consulting someone because of guilt feelings. They are, for the most part, expressing their true feelings. A couple in rural Iowa, for example, may tell about their most 'perverted" desires and activities in writing to a male or female in New York or California. They know they will probably never meet, but they write to other human beings, receive replies in kind, and their sexual fantasies are at least one small step closer to reality.
The reader may recall Lorna, the subject of a previous study in this volume. She has carried on highly erotic correspondence with literally hundreds of couples and singles, and agreed to let me copy.some of the replies, assuring her that no names would be revealed.
The first series of letters. that I will reproduce in part, were written by Art and Beryl, a young couple in the Midwest:
"Dear Code X32ZZ5, "We're brand new members in the club and really got a charge out of your ad and picture. By way of introduction, I'm twenty-seven, 5'7", 165 pounds, black hair, brown eyes. Beryl is twenty-three, 5'3", 124 pounds, black hair, brown eyes, 3&25-38, and we're both considered good-looking. I'm a regional salesman and Beryl is my secretary so we travel a lot and have really had some good experiences in all kinds of sex. Our interests are anything that makes you have a good orgasm and there isn't much we haven't done. We like photos, Polaroid's, films, movies, etc. Say anything you want if you answer us.
"[female type handwriting, different pen] Hi, I'm Beryl, the other half, and I just want to repeat what Art said. Don't be afraid to write us real hot letters and tell it like it is. Ask us anything. You couldn't possibly offend us. We enjoy reading sexy letters from other people and like to write them too. I can really write some hot ones! I have, a slight tendency toward girls, but Art isn't the same way about guys.
"[male handwriting again] We hope to hear from you soon. If you like, we can exchange some interesting photos. Sock it to us, baby! "Sex-seerly, "ART & BERYL"
The second letter in a correspondence like this usually reflects the reply received to the first one. Lorna sent some nude and "action" photos to Art and Beryl and told in detail of her sexual likes. This reply to that letter included Polaroid's taken by the couple. It is Beryl who begins the letter and writes most of it:
"Dear Lorna, "Whee! What a hot letter and beautiful pictures. Good thing you like majorette's batons too. As you can see by our photos, I like to have the end knobs removed and use them in my ass, my cunt ... oh, I just love them. Art gives them away to schools in advertising campaigns and I love to see those sexy, leggy high school girls twirling them. He puts one baton in my cunt or ass, then fucks my other hole at the same time he screws me, or I suck him off.
"Right now, were looking for a discreet gal like you for me to find out just how far I'm willing to go. Art's an out and out voyeur. He's fucked all sizes, shapes and colors and loves to watch me get it better than anything now.
"The last experience U had with a girl was back a few years ago in eighth or ninth or tenth grade in school. We went the whole route, finger-fucked each other, kiss each others' cunts and suck and lick, and use various instruments on each other. That's how I got hung up but good on enjoying penetration in my rectum. This girl loved to have me lay on my stomach while she kneeled between my legs. She would tongue kiss my mouth, lick all over My naked body, my back, and sides of my breasts, then spread apart the cheeks of my ass and lick and kiss all up and down the crack finally ending up inserting her tongue in my back hole at the same time putting one or two fingers in my Bunt, sometimes in my ass too. The finale would start with her moaning and complaining she was so hot and had to touch herself. I would reach around and pull my cheeks wide apart so my asshole was stretched and gaping open. When she was approaching her climax she would blow real hard into my rectum. This would result in her going completely wild and just ravishing my whole crotch. She was terrific! And we both used to have orgasms easily.
"Are your horny, honey? I hope so, darling, and I hope you have to pull up your dress and finger-fuck yourself! I'd love to be there right now and watch you do it.
"I'd like to know how you consider masturbation. I've become a master at it since Art frequently takes long trips without me. I have a very good vibrator and sometimes I get so hot that I'll put anything inside my cunt while using the vibrator between my lips and on the slit. When I get real, real hot, I use something in my rectum, a finger or two in my cunt so I can wiggle whatever I'm using in my butt. If you notice any spots on the paper, they are from me [there were spots,] I'm getting wet writing this and looking at your picture and I have to trick myself every now and then.
"I'd love to see a close-up picture of your pussy, honey. As you can see mine has very small lips and they are distended, probably from me playing with myself too much since I was a little kid. But, I'm always interested in looking at other girls' cunts. I'm writing to you and looking at that picture. Can you suck your own breasts? I can't, but I sure wish I could. God! I'm so hot and wet right now. Can you smell that? I'm just soaked. My imagination is running away with me. The photo I see right now is you with your nose buried in that young girl's cunt, while you're tricking yourself with your finger. I'm sitting here right now with a dishcloth rolled up lengthwise on the chair and have spread the lips apart over it to soak up all the juice so I can lean forward and press down on it. Art will suck the rag when he comes home tonight.
"Write me, honey and tell me if this made you hot and what you did about it. Do you like to take a medium-hard prick and suck on it very slowly and nice and feel it get harder and harder and begin to throb in your mouth? I just love that. It makes me wild and want to have those batons up my cunt and ass both. Ooops! Art just drove up outside. He's early. He's really going to get it, but I'll make him suck the dishrag first....
"[different handwriting] What a sight to behold when I walked in the door! Beryl is now sitting at the kitchen table with her legs open. I read what she wrote while all the time she is making grabs for my cock and licking it up, while I sucked her juicy cunt rag.
"So, you like batons or anything in your holes too. We're returning your pictures, not because we don't enjoy them, but we believe in returning all pictures and having ours returned, to play it safe. If Beryl doesn't quit nursing on my cock, she's going to get fucked on or under the table! Oh, hell....
"[feminine handwriting] Upon receiving this gorgeous piece of meat hanging out of his pants I decided to rearrange things a little. I'm now sitting on his lap with his cock lodged firmly in my cunt Excuse us a moment....
"Wheee! I just had a load dumped into. me you wouldn't believe! I'm still sitting on his legs and his cock has slipped out and is laying right under the opening. All the ,sperm he squirted in me is running out My little lips are so wide open right now. It feels so gooey good coming out of me in big globs like that I hope you're so hot right now your fingers are going a mile a minute! I would like to see the mess in your pants....
"[his handwriting] Let me tell you, that was pretty good. Her Bunt felt like it was on fire! As you can guess, she's got more than a slight interest in girls. That picture of the girl with the big cunt and lips sets her to going. This is the one she uses to look at when she plays with herself and I'm on the road alone. Beryl is licking my cock off good and clean right now and holding it loosely in her mouth. She would love to do that while you are sucking and working at her cunt and asshole with your mouth and fingers....
"There are two Negro girls who like to party with us and I have some good Polaroid's of them eating up Beryl from top to bottom. They used candles on her, one up her ass and one in her cunt, and were licking her ass and belly while she blew me. I fucked one of the girls, but Beryl didn't want me to come in her. She, wanted to wait until we got home so that she could have it all to suck out of me and still had the taste of the black girl on it.
"These girls. are nice, clean practical nurses. They're late teens or early twenties. They like to be photographed in sex together or with white people and they do a lot of corresponding. Beryl likes for me to fuck her ass deep and good while they watch and finger each other. They both have big tits and can pick up one and lick and suck the nipples themselves. This drives Beryl out of her fucking mind...."
COMMENT: While I do not believe each and everything this couple says, I do not think that they completely make up these experiences. I have corroborated their meeting with the two Negro girls, and we must assume that Art and Beryl do together at least as much as they say they do. However, I would venture that their actual outside activities are few. They receive much inspiration from their own sex together and autoerotically from erotic correspondence and exchange of photos.
Beryl and Art are on the fringe area of real swingers. They probably harbor many trepidations and unrealized fears about meeting with "live" sexual enthusiasts. But they do make the jump occasionally, and each event can be modified, blown up, rewritten, etc., to provide sensate material for correspondence.
In marriage, Beryl's discovered anal sensitivity and oral eroticism carried right over from her former Lesbian practices and were fuelled even more by her imaginative husband. I would guess though that there is a feeling of shame or guilt present that motivates Art and Beryl to limiting their group activities in the flesh.
Perhaps Beryl's willingness to be photographed in sex acts and to "tell all" in her letters to people she will never meet provide her with what she needs. She wants to have her cake and eat it too, in a manner of speaking. She and Art both want to remain somewhat anonymous, sharing their "evil" sex desires and acts with others vicariously, while remaining very "straight" individuals among those with whom they work and socialize generally.
Other swingers who are quite active, also resort to much erotic letter writing. And the replies are often read at swinger's parties or in threesomes or foursomes, to provide a certain amount of stimulation, or icebreaking.
The following excerpts are from letters Lorna received from Eddy in Kentucky. While he wrote the letters, this too seemed to be a joint erotic activity shared with his wife, Jane:
"We are not group sex fiends, Lorna, but we do enjoy sex to the fullest and I will tell you about some of our kicks. Since I'm only good to come about twice a night, I made Jane a dildo from a piece of hose and the end of a hoe handle glued in it. At first, we used it to prolong her pleasure.
"I would fuck her for a while and then use the dildo gently in her cunt. She has gotten to the point where she can come with it just as well as with me. We are also now using it as a double headed job. I can put it in her bottom while I fuck her cunt, and if I'm very gentle, she'll let me reverse the process. I get a big charge out of fucking her bottom, and the most unusual thing we've done with that dildo is to put one end in my bottom and the other in hers or in her cunt and work back and forth or side to side, depending on what position we're in.
"One time, I used just a piece of hose and curved it so that one end was in her bottom and the other was in her cunt. She squatted down so that the exposed loop hit the stool, and she rode it back and forth while sucking my cock with a beautiful blow job. This was quite a sensation for her and she wants to try it again, but she says it hurt a little too....
"Sometimes, generally on a Saturday night, we start by having a drink in the living room, then I will lay her on the couch and fuck her for a while. Maybe come, and maybe not. Then as we watch TV, I will fuck her with the dildo for a while and then back to the real thing. Jane can get a good two hour fuck that way if my arm doesn't wear out....
"Other times when I'm fucking her in the normal way, I reach down and shove the dildo in her asshole and stroke it back and forth as I stroke my prick in her cunt. When I'm lucky enough to get the ass for myself, Jane gets down dog fashion and I fuck her in the bottom while I use the dildo in her pussy. She says she likes that way the least, but really likes the dildo in her bottom if I'm not too rough...." wish I had three pricks or an extra dildo, because when I get Jane really worked up, she doesn't care what I put in or how much it hurts...."
COMMENT: The husband here is certainly an imaginative one, if only to a limited degree. It may be that his wife is not really aware of his erotic correspondence, but I was able to check out the fact that he was married and that his wife's first name is the one used in his original letters.
It could be that he has never really done all these things with his wife. Perhaps she is a very "straight" or frigid type about sex and the husband must get his variant "kicks" through fantasy and correspondence.
On the other hand, he does paint a very logical picture, he uses his home address. His acts per se that he describes as performing with his wife do not appear abnormal within the context of a marriage. The erotic letter writing would only indicate that he is coprolalic or coprographic, as are all the millions who exchange erotic correspondence or write graffiti on toilet walls.
In the preceding instance, I pointed out that the three-way wife could be just an erotic dream or hallucination of the male correspondent. Most sexually active men would probably like to participate, view or otherwise become involved with such a girl as Lorna, either by themselves or with others.
The single man of average personality and looks rarely finds the "ideal" three-way mate for this kind of lovemaking. But when he does, he seldom forgets her. This point is demonstrated quite aptly in the following letter Lorna received from Joe, a thirty-one year-old military officer:
"Dear Lorna, Darling....
"I received your terrific letter this afternoon and again you have made my cock stiff as a board. I would love to eat your pretty pussy, hairs and all; and have you suck hell out of my cock like you wrote about.
"If you are like Marsha in that you like a cock in all three places, you must be wonderful. Marsha could drive me crazy with her body, and i could set her off like a firecracker with my tongue or fingers working her hard little clitty. Her pussy would stay wet constantly and only become dry after I had licked and sucked every drop from her.
"One night we were in my car making out pretty heavily. She had not taken off her pants, but I could feel the heat and wetness right through them. She had my prick out and was sucking on it. I asked her to lay down on the seat, and without any effort at all, I pushed my cock right through the crotch of her panties and into that wet, warm pussy. Her panties were the real lacy kind, and between the moisture of her cunt and the hardness of my cock, it went through them like a hot knife through butter. It was almost as if I had taken her cherry. She started coming before I even got all the way up her. And we were in the parking lot at the Officers' Club!
"Sweet, Lorna, the next time you get all excited and your nest is real juicy, just let your panties soak it all up, then send the panties to me. I'll lick them until the crotch is gone! As I am writing this letter I have nothing on, as is usual after I take a shower, and I am slowly stroking my hard cock. I'm circumcised so Marsha thinks it is very attractive. She used to enjoy crouching between my legs and licking the head and telling me how much she loved to eat cock. Her lips and mouth around it were something else too. I'll swear the head of it went past her tonsils and she loved to drain it dry. Her asshole was small and puckered, but she could orgasm if I lubricated it and would come sometimes while I was doing that and playing with it before I got about three inches of my cock up there. She liked to reach around and feel the shaft that was left outside, and the way she used her fingers, it would make me come in her ass every time.
"Most girls whom I've had a lot of sex with like to take it in all three places eventually. One girl sucked my cock in broad daylight as we drove along the freeways in Washington in my convertible. What a time!
"It is a little more difficult to get a girl to let you put your prick in her anus at first, but with gentleness and patience it is possible. Some girls have such a small asshole that I've only been able to get the head in a little way. I fucked a girl in London that way who had begged me outright to fuck her ass. She loved it in there and moved her butt around until I thought I'd go wild. She had a big, beautiful ass too, and she said she'd rather have a fuck up the bottom than in her cunt.
"I'll close for now, Lorna, just so you know my stiff, hard cock is all yours anytime you want it and in every hole. Right now; it's getting a hand job...."Love, "JOE"
COMMENT: This letter serves as little more than a very simple behavioral report on the various discoveries of one male adventurer seeking the three-way female. In a general way, I find his remarks to be quite credible and to present a rather vivid picture of the worldly type man constantly on the prowl for women that are to his liking.
An element that he stresses is one that runs through to form a pattern in nearly all cases involving the more or less "normal" and uninhibited female: the adaptation to strong sexual response in all three entrances. It took a great deal of coaxing and persuading in some instances, but once it became a fait accompli and the psychological barriers were broken down, the females enjoyed the penetration of each orifice.
As for Marsha, it appears that she is a very independent-and "daring" type. She obviously enjoys her lovemaking in risky places, such as a parking lot or driving along the freeway in a convertible. She also likes to shock strangers with this "game." It is possible that Marsha is reacting negatively to a strict upbringing. She may subconsciously want to be caught in the act and punished by some kind of authoritarian symbol, as the police.
Such a great deal of erotic letter-writing that does not progress to actual meetings (although the writer may insist he wants to meet) serves as a purging of the soul of guilt feelings. Instead of confessing transgressions past and present to a clergyman, or paying an analyst to listen, the writer excites himself while confessing all and finds that he can share his "guilt" with others of like minds.
The story of sibling incest related in the following letter to Lorna from a Chicago sales executive provides a good example:
"My very dearest Lorna, "Your letter has me fired up as usual. So, with erect organ in hand, here I go. Do I love Frenching and Greeking? Do I love to eat, drink, and make Mary? I love it all, baby.
"I have two sisters (one is a stepsister). They are both younger than I. My stepsister Gwen is a gorgeous and beautiful thing (she's the very shapely type, slim, with small hard tits and a very, very beautiful ass-I used to have pictures of her that got me hot as hell, but I've lost them over the years). Anyway, one summer when I was about seventeen (she was fourteen or fifteen), I was walking back from the bathroom. It was late at night and our parents were out. As I walked past Gwen's bedroom, I could see that she was sound asleep and that, because of the heat she had been tossing and turning a lot and the covers were kicked off and her shorty nightgown had ridden up. I could see her beautiful ass sticking up from the bed. Lorna, baby! I remember that so well. I got hot just looking at that lovely sight. I went back to my bedroom and started to jerk off, when an idea suddenly struck me! This is a hell of a lot weirder than that training nipple you still like to suck on while masturbating. I got out of bed, went to her room, got down on the floor next to her bed and began to feel her ass! God, it drove me wild. I took off my underpants (I don't wear anything else to bed at night) and took my stiff prick and put it in her hand. Nothing. I went back to playing with her ass for a while. Then I went back to my own bedroom and had a wild jerkoff thinking about that ass.
"Well, from that time on I always looked in her bedroom it night. And then one night I went in there and was playing with her ass, took my cock and put it against her, and guess what? Her hand closed around it and began to rub id I almost shouted with pleasure. She was wide awake and every bit as willing to fool around as I was. Can sucking a cock be a natural instinct in a girl so young? Maybe I'm thinking naive. Anyway, Gwen rubbed my cock for a very short time and then took it right into her mouth! I couldn't believe it. It was too fantastic to be true! And yet, she did, and she did it very well, besides. She sucked it and licked it every bit as well as I could possibly want. Oh, those lovely young teenage lips! And when I squirted in her mouth, she swallowed it like a veteran cocksucker. She licked my thighs and around my cock to get some of the juice she hadn't been able to hold in her mouth. And when she finished, I got down on my knees, spread her legs and in gratitude for the terrific blow-job she had just given me, ate her pussy with long laps.
"Oh, God, Lorna, you would have loved to have been a part of that ... her pussy was wet, just from sucking my cock off. That was one hell of an experience because Gwen went wild as I continued eating her, but; with my other sister asleep in the next bed we both had to be as quiet as possible. Well, that was all we did that night, but there were many others. I was the first male to fuck Gwen and after a while I got it into that beautiful ass too.
"I was downstairs in the den watching TV when Gwen came in. She just looked at me and walked on into the kitchen. I followed her in there on the pretext of getting a drink of water. She was standing with her back to me, doing something at the sink. She was wearing dungarees (which showed off her ass beautifully and got me hot). I went over to the sink, took a glass and (while standing behind her) put the glass under the water. I started pushing my stiff cock against her ass and made sure that she felt it was stiff. She began to rub slowly back against it and wiggle that luscious ass so I knew that she knew what I had and what I wanted. I put the glass down and began to play with her titties. She turned around and I kissed her, using my tongue in her mouth and kissing hotly. I pulled off the halter she was wearing and began to pull her around so I could suck her tits and handle them too. I love to suck on nipples and it made her very hot when I did. Then the two of us went into the den, where she took off the rest of her clothes. Her naked thighs and ass really got to me. She sat down on the couch and I got between her legs and began to lick and suck her pussy. She started to moan and groan and tremble beautifully. I didn't let her come, but, instead, made her stretch out on the couch, got on top of her after putting on a rubber, and began to really sock it to her. (By this time I had learned how to go slow and make the pleasure last as long as possible.) That particular fuck was one of the best I've ever thrown, because, for some reason, I was able to think of something else beside the sensations in my prick as I was going in and out of her, and I lasted a long time. She grabbed with her hands and legs and held on to me while I kept moving in and out, back and forth. And, before we were through with that episode, she was encouraging me with moans and shouts of, 'Give it to me, honey ... oh-oh-oh ... do it!' And when I came, she came too and kept holding me inside her and on top of her for a long time after it was over. But I finally got off, went into the bathroom across the hall and took the rubber off and washed my cock and hands. While I was drying off, she came in and began to wash her pussy. Watching her clean herself out made my cock start to swell all over again. She noticed it and began to touch it, kind of lovingly. I would have loved to have given it to her once again right there, but I had just shot such a big load I couldn't quite make it. We both got dressed again and I went back into the den. She came back in too and sat down by me again. It was kind of awkward, with me wanting more but not being able to get it up, and her sitting there so close to me. Well, she solved the problem by reaching over and rubbing between my legs. My cock was still half hard, and this time she took it out of my pants (balls and all) and began to lick on it. It wasn't long before it was hard enough again and so off came the dungarees and pants and soon I had her sitting on her knees on the couch with her shoulders flat. I got behind her and began to lick hell out of her lovely asshole. (My cock is hard just remembering it.) When she was real juicy wet back there, I decided that-like it or not-I was going to fuck that rear hole. I got up and went into the bathroom and came back with some Vaseline and put a little around the rim of her anus, then stood behind her, bent a bit, and slowly pushed my cock against her ass. I told her what to do (I had fucked a girl in the ass once before)-how to expand the muscles, how to hold them expanded-while I worked it very slowly into her ass. It must have hurt her quite a bit at first, so I stopped to let the pain ease before pushing in deeper. Finally, I was in as far as I was going to go. She held on and soon the pain turned into a good horny feeling. I held her hips while pumping away inside of her there and after a while, she got to like that tight fucking in the ass a lot. It wasn't long before she would sometimes ask me to fuck her ass instead of her pussy. And, believe me, she could come from being fucked in the ass just as powerfully as from taking it in her pussy, particularly if I played with her clit while fucking her ass...." so long, and hope you are creaming in your beautiful, thick-haired pussy that I want to eat up.
"Suckingly, "YOUR ASS FUCKER"
COMMENT: In this case, we see the actual fixation of anal response. At the age of fourteen or fifteen, this girl was introduced to anal intercourse and found it to her liking. We are in at the beginning, so to speak, when the anal response was opened.
It is my opinion that Gwen had been on very intimate terms with other boys before her stepbrother entered the picture, but had perhaps not gone "all the way." She may well have performed fellatio upon other boyfriends, which would account for the "naturalness" that the writer describes so vividly. In my studies of juvenile sex activities, I find that oral intercourse among junior high and high school age adolescents is not at all uncommon, and the situation has existed for some years. They use it as a "safe" substitute for copulation.
The fact that Gwen was the boy's stepsister may have made him more fascinated by her and the closeness was there to tempt him. There was the excuse that Gwen was not "really" his sister, yet the attractiveness of evil in incest may have played a part, much in the way that a stepfather so frequently violates a very sexually attractive stepdaughter.
The very fact that the man here recalls these childhood episodes so. graphically would lead me to believe that he may very well have heterosexual pedophilic desires as an adult, i.e.-he would like to relive the experiences of his childhood that he recalls so vividly. Realizing that this could be quite dangerous, he probably attempts to think of Lorna in terms of her own sex filled childhood. He empathizes with her, but as the male counterpart.
The trigger that set off this man's original carnal desire for his stepsister was the "forbidden" exposure of her very shapely buttocks as he walked past her bedroom. Past experiences with females probably also figured in his desire for anal intercourse with Gwen. She was the first female with whom he was close enough to gradually approach the act.
In many instances, I have observed that it is the naturally aggressive male who stimulates oral and anal response in the more submissive, though sexually responsive female. For this reason, the role of the male who is eager for entrance with his penis, tongue and/or fingers at all three orifices is just as important as that of the female involved.
Anal-and oralerotic females, as I have pointed out, need not have these desires only because of some fixation or trauma in early childhood. Since almost 100% of the females have the physical potential to enjoy penile penetration and/or the use of digits and objects in the anus and mouth as well as the genitalia, the desire for or enjoyment of these types of intercourse may be awakened at almost any future time in their lives. The only barrier is the psychological one that many women, more so than men, have been imbued with since childhood by parents and society in general.
Some females, as well as males, feel that oral and anal contacts are physically "dirty," yet simple mouth-to-mouth kissing, according to reliable experts in the field of medicine, etc., carries much more potential for the transmission of disease causing bacteria than analingus, cunnilingus or fellatio.