Chapter 5
UNCLES AND AUNTS, NEPHEWS AND NIECES
Over twice as many girls under 14 have sexual contact with an uncle than with their father, according to conclusions drawn from the Kinsey studies. More than 2% of American females over 14, or a total of I,300,000 by conservative estimate, therefore, may be reliably assumed to have had some kind of erotic relation with an uncle.
While recognizing the enormity of this figure, we must also realize the factors that make it so. Many aunts and uncles are much closer to the same age as their nephews and nieces than parents, or even the step-parents. Some are the same age or younger.
Secondly, the aunt or uncle, much like the stepparent, enjoys an affectionate relationship with a nephew or niece, without actual familial closeness or responsibility. A doting aunt or uncle may be trusted by the child almost as much as a mother or father. And pedophiliacs are known to attempt sexual contact with children who are in a position of trust or affection. When we consider that a high percentage of pedophiliacs must have nephews and nieces of their own, we can readily recognize the opportunity such a relationship provides.
When these sexual contacts occur among those of about the same age, it is ordinarily much like the natural experimental play between brothers and sisters, cousins or close playmates. One interviewee boasted that he, "Went to bed with my aunt when I was 23." But the aunt in this case was 19, and he met her for the first time when he was a GI stationed on the West Coast and agreed to visit her on the insistence of his mother. They took a liking to each other, dated, and intimate relations resulted.
Technically, an affair like this may be incest, but it is not so much a deviational form of behavior that we consider it a basic abnormality. The blood relationship was incidental to the sex relation. There was no coercion or taking advantage of a position of trust or affection by either party.
Again, we find in cases where large families live together in relative poverty, that relations between aunts and uncles in the same household and the children of their brothers and sisters, occur at a higher rate than in any other classifiable category. From there, it seems to take place with equal rarity in all socio-economic groups.
Many pesudo and actual intellectuals in the often misguided sexual freedom groups have come out publicly with a theory of sex education and instruction for children reaching puberty, which involves actual training in sexual intercourse and its variations by the youngsters' own uncles and aunts. With complete seriousness they propose that each girl at about age 14 and each boy at 15 or 16, be assigned to spend a certain amount of time in bed with the uncle or aunt of the opposite sex. Those who believe in the theory of universal bi-sexuality even go so far as to suggest they should try relations with both.
As a psychologist and student of human behavior in our present society, we could hardly support any such wild scheme as this. However, since the theory has been put into practice by certain liberal parents both here and abroad, such activity is certainly within the purview of this current study.
Case History (21):
THE AUNT AND UNCLE AS "SEX INSTRUCTOR"
"I am able to report a most remarkable success in our first experiment," a British college instructor connected with a sexual freedom group informed us. "Young Clarence, age 15%, and Emily, age 14, have been introduced into the most effective and rewarding techniques of lovemaking by their aunt and uncle, respectively.
"Before I say more, I want your readers to understand that we have adopted this system of sexual indoctrination not as any offbeat excuse for thrills, but as a scientific contribution to the welfare and happiness of mankind. We all know that a restrictive and taboo parental attitude toward the normal sex urges common to all human beings is a constant cause of conflict among adolescents today.
"The unfortunate product of today's repressive society is faced with an impossible dilemma. His young body cries out for normal fulfillment and love, while he is stringently forbidden by an archaic code of morals from doing anything about it. He is left to solitary masturbation or one-sided homosexual experimentation, and these practices too are so condemned by unthinking parents that he must carry an awful burden of guilt with him.
"All of our neuroses, all our murderous hates that result in racism, class-wars and battlefield killing, stem from the bottling up and repressing of normal sexual emotions until they must explode in even more anti-social ways, some of which, oddly, are acceptable. You see, the whole fallacy of our present mores (I promise to return to the germane subject right after this) is that we take for granted killing, murdering, raping and fighting as something inevitable. I don't mean to say we approve, but we do tolerate this terrible things as 'bound to happen' occasionally. Conversely, we condemn the natural emotion of sex desire in the confused adolescent as something that 'can't be permitted' to happen.
"Now, to the story of young Clarence and Emily and the experiment which has just recently been concluded, with much cause for rejoicing on the part of those of us who are striving for a better tomorrow in the area of human social relations.
"These children, the only offspring of a middle-aged couple in our group, had been raised in absolute freedom as regards sex. All questions on the subject were encouraged and answered frankly. They were both told to come to their parents at any time to make known their problems or wishes. Clarence commenced masturbating in his early teens and was told to go ahead, to enjoy himself, that there was nothing to fear. Emily inquired if it would be all right for she and her brother to attempt intercourse when she was 13.
"The negative reply to her question was based on the possibility of unwanted pregnancy that might result from a union between two inexperienced children, but a pleasant alternative was promised for the near future. You see, Uncle Devlin and his wife, Aunt Mary, a handsome couple in their thirties with growing youngsters of their own, had already agreed to their part in the experiment.
"The ages of Clarence and Emily were perfect for a simultaneous introduction. They both reached the proper stage of maturation at almost the same time. In view of this, it was arranged that Devlin and Mary should take Emily and Clarence on holiday for a long weekend at separate places.
"Devlin, a dashing and hearty chap whom 14-year-old Emily quite admired, took the girl to a beach resort near Bournemouth. Her parents had been supplying her with 'the pill' adequately in advance and instructed her to continue taking it. Devlin also took along condoms so that he could at least demonstrate their use.
"Of course, Emily was rather excited and anxious. Devlin, however, did not rush into things, but rather let the two of them become acquainted first, as it were. They had lunch at a restaurant and he let her have a glass of wine to soothe her nerves. They went for a swim, undressing one at a time in a cabana, and then returned to their room about four in the afternoon.
"They undressed together this time, and young Emily was given free reign to satisfy her curiosity over the male anatomy with visual and tactile ministrations, which, of course, resulted in erectile excitement on Devlin's part, as you can well imagine. They lay about and fondled, kissing a bit and doing those various other things one is prone to in such situations.
"When sufficient passion had been generated.
Devlin demonstrated the genital kiss and some few other little forms of preliminary pleasure, much as a means of providing sufficient lubrication as well as for added lubricity. He was ever so gentle with the initial penetration, making it a real act of love rather than a brutal or painful defloration.
"During the two days following they had intercourse four times, and the results were surprisingly excellent. Because of the proper training, which only an experienced, loving and gentle adult is capable of giving, little Emily experienced orgasms three out of four times.
"Aunt Mary took Clarence to a nice spot down by Brighton, and the impetuousness of male youth made the experience quite different, for her. Clarence would have nothing to do with a leisurely swim beforehand. The instant they unpacked, he was showering her with kisses and struggling to relieve her of clothing. Mary became justifiably amused. Clarence became somewhat frustrated.
"The result of all this fiery impatience, of course, was a premature orgasm on his part, before he had even gained penetration. Instead of laughing at him, however, Mary told him very sympathetically to consider it a good lesson, never to get too excited and impatient, but rather take things easy as they go to gain full and real enjoyment.
"Thus relaxed, as it were, the two had a wonderful and restful swim, dined, went for a walk, and then returned to their room in a more proper frame of mind. Mary, quite naturally, had taken 'the pill', though she did instruct young Clarence in the use of condoms, a practice he learned to loathe almost instantly.
"Mary led him round to oral sex, but found that her interest in this far outweighed his. Not, of course, that Clarence objected to her fellatio, but he had no yearning to reply in kind with cunnilingus. (This, I might mention, is what we more or less expected. The inexperienced youth has little desire for mouth contact with the female organs, but loves to be the receiver, as the average young girl seems positively fascinated with taking the male organ into her mouth.) Mary admitted afterward to being a bit disappointed. However, the whole idea is that nothing should be forced on the child. The adolescent should go at his own pace, only do what he genuinely wants to do.
"Clarence and Mary (whom young C. described as having a 'wonderful pair of bubbies and the nicest legs and ass') had intercourse ll times during the three days, not including the premature attempt. So, you can see right there that the training session will be far different for the average lad, than for the average girl.
"Devlin and Mary found the experience wonderfully rewarding, the chance of a lifetime, as two humans of great capacity for love, to do something they had always yearned to do. They recaptured for a brief time that magic of youth, the physical and passionate love of a yearning young body-Mary, the wonder of a boy panting for her mature body with his uncertain emotions; Devlin, the budding bloom of ripening loveliness, the smooth-fleshed feel of virginal femininity.
"For Clarence and Emily, they were able to learn the beauties of sexual love without the bumbling awkwardness of inexperienced children grappling for each other, with often tragic consequences. They enjoyed to the fullest the experience and physical maturity of adult instruction, satisfying their curiosities and desires without shame or fear.
"We do not send people out to do anything else important in this world without training and experience at the hands of adult veterans in the field. How on earth can we expect love and marriage to be anything but a sham when neither partner is mentally or physically prepared?
"I consider Clarence and Emily the most fortunate of children..."
PSYCHOLOGICAL COMMENT: If our present day society was based on the primitive tribal customs of aboriginals from some South Seas island community, the above plan of sexual indoctrination for the young might not seem so ridiculous, immoral, impractical and monstrous.
Even if someone could show that the primitive peoples who practiced similar erotic customs were any less war-like, murderous or better adjusted than man is today, there might be a slight doubtful merit to such a plan.
What we do find as unfortunate is that the groups of people who tout and perpetrate these "experiments" in the name of "logic" and "science" are finding acceptance in the so-called "intellectual" communities today. They claim that theirs is a positive approach to sexual repression inherent in our society's cultural mores, yet what they propose is a mutation of naturalness and normalcy. In our present society, these uncles and aunts are no more than sexual Fagins, an erotic twist to the immortal trainer of children as criminals in Dickens' OLIVER TWIST.
While praising the "advantages" of sexual indoctrination by an aggressive adult, these sexual freedomites never give pause to consider the impressionability of youth. What happens, for instance, when the young adolescent falls desperately "in love" with the aunt or uncle? And what of the aunt or uncle who craves more of "the taste of youth" after having his deviate appetite satisfied so temporarily?
To think that the average male couple could add new depth to their own sexual embraces by discussing the pleasures of their abnormal pedophilic intercourse with a nephew and niece is a perversion of our basic tenets of decency and respectability.
From both a logical and a psychological point of view, we can see no possible advantage to any such arrangement, but can only view it as an attempt by certain well-educated perverts to justify their own abnormal desires for sex relations with pubescent children.
In the primitive groups, as well as in medieval Britain and Europe, the tribal chief or "laird of the manor" enjoyed what was known as jus primaenoctis, the right of the first night. It was his privilege, because of his superior position, to deflower each young girl in his domain prior to her marriage or the consummation thereof. It was a dreaded and hated practice long ago abolished with the onset of democracy in the West.
We see in this current plot involving aunts and uncles (and almost everyone is an aunt or uncle), merely a socialistic restoration of this plan so long rejected by civilized man.
Case History (22):
DEBAUCHMENT OF MINORS BY AUNT AND UNCLE WITH FATHER'S CONSENT AND PARTICIPATION
A female social worker in a large manufacturing town in the South related the following:
"The father was a notions salesman, on the road for long periods, up to several months at times. The children were a 12-year-old daughter and a son, ll. Their mother left them to run away with another man. The father put them in the home of his brother and sister-in-law.
"We think the sleeping arrangement, the girl with the uncle and the boy with the aunt, was deliberate and planned with the connivance of the father. They admitted nothing, however, at their trial. The conviction was obtained by the testimony of the two children.
"The young girl, pretty and well-built by average standards, said that her uncle first taught her to fellate him and insisted that she consume the product of ejaculation. There was little sense of conscience or morals involved for they had been brought up in a discordant home with much drinking, cursing and infidelity.
"The girl disliked the arrangement, but admitted that 'Uncle sure knew how to make you feel good when he was a mind to.' He deflowered the child during the year they slept together and had intercourse with her once or more a week. Oral sex was performed each night, both cunnilingus and fellatio.
The fourteen-year-old boy was masturbated and fellated by the alcoholic aunt constantly while they were together, and she requested intercourse two or three times a week. The boy enjoyed it, but stated the demands of the woman were too much for him.
"When the father returned, he took his daughter into the bedroom and asked all about her relations with her uncle. Satisfying himself that she was 'broken-in,' he undressed her, put on a contraceptive, and had intercourse with her on the bed. This continued each night while he was there. The daughter stated she could not have an orgasm with her father, because, un-like her uncle, he finished too quickly. The father obliged the girl's desires by completing her with his fingers.
"We entered the case when the report got out that the father was taking her on the rounds of the bars, all dressed up in heels and hose with her face made up, offering her to other men for ten dollars an hour.
"The children are now receiving psychotherapy in a home for delinquents."
PSYCHOLOGICAL COMMENT: This account bears a remarkable similarity to Case History No. 12, in that the father both enjoyed his daughter sexually and then submitted her to commercial exploitation. The striking difference is that he apparently turned both his children over to their aunt and uncle for initial "training."
Perhaps this strange arrangement somehow relieved the father, in his own mind, of the responsibility for his later acts. He could assume the attitude that since her uncle had used her sexually and she was already despoiled, then he could use her, too.
We can guess that because of his extended absences, he did not feel the usual paternal affection for the children, and that his unfaithful wife's activities served to give the boy and girl themselves no sense of family morality. This seems quite evident by the fact that neither one of them objected to the sexual acts with the aunt, uncle or father, and that the situation was brought to the attention of authorities only when the father became a panderer for his daughter.
Case History (23):
THE PRECOCIOUS YOUTH IN AN AUNT-NEPHEW RELATIONSHIP
The subject of this psychological interview is a male whore, a man known as a bi-sexual "stud," who lives in a large and prosperous American port city. At the age of 26, he credits his appeal to older female clients to his teenage affair with his 38-year-old aunt. With the promise of anonymity, he answered questions with complete frankness and even a little conceit.
Q.-Whom would you say was the aggressor in the relationship, you or your aunt?
A.-I'd say it was 50-50 all the way. She was a damn beautiful woman who'd never been married and lived in this jerkwater Southern town where she had to behave herself. I was a hot-blooded 16-year-old and never had a girl yet.
Q.-Were you well acquainted with your aunt before this happened?
A.-Just visits, short visits. Aunt Joan and I'd always taken a liking to each other ever since I was little. I mean, she was the kissing type relative. I used to run from her when I was about 5 or 6, because I didn't like all that kissing, and that big bosom of hers made me think she was a freak.
Q.-When did this attitude change?
A.-I guess ... oh, when I was 8 or 9 I got to where I liked her kisses. I guess it was sex then ... it was ... Well, you know how when you kiss your mother, it's just kind of quick and you feel your lips touch and you like it because it's your mother and you love her ... like a mother. Aunt Joan's kisses weren't like that. When I was ten ... yeah, when I was ten, that's it! It was my birthday!
She'd come to visit us and mother was giving her hell for dying her hair this silver blonde-like color, and I thought it looked great. Well, Aunt Joan came in my room to give me my present. She sat on the bed beside where I was sitting and she took my head in her hands and said, 'Barry, I'm going to give you a big birthday kiss.'
I puckered for her, I remember that. I puckered and she pressed her lips to mine slowly, and then she moved her head. She let her lips glide over mine and parted them so I could feel her tongue. Then she opened her mouth ... I'll never forget it ... opened her mouth for just a second and slid her tongue into my mouth. It was wild!
That was all-then. That night, I masturbated and I thought about kissing her-her tongue in my mouth...
Q.-Did anything of a more intimate nature pass between you before that summer when you were 16?
A.-Not really. It was kisses like that every time she visited-and I kept wanting to see her breasts. They didn't look freakish to me anymore, no sir. They looked damn good.
Q.-What of your other sexual awakenings or experiences during that period?
A.-Only with other guys. We had a bunch would meet on Saturdays out in the woods and we'd get all the pictures of naked women we could find, and we'd look at them and masturbate. Two of the guys were real fags and they'd (fellate) us sometimes.
Q.-Did you enjoy that?
A.-Oh, yeah, sure. I'd (fellate) another guy sometimes, too. I like it. I'm no fag. I'm bi-sexual about it. Do it to a woman, do it to a guy.
Q.-And you were 16 when you went to visit your aunt that summer?
A.-Barely 16. It was a week after my birthday. See, my mother and father wanted to go to Europe. They would of taken me, all right. But I bitched about it because I figured that way I could get to stay with Aunt Joan all summer.
Q.-Then it was you who arranged it?
A.-Well, pretty much. She'd always said I could spend the summer with her if I wanted a taste of small-town life. Heck, I figured this was the ideal set-up. Mother and Dad jumped at the idea because they'd be able to have a lot more fun without having to drag me around Europe with them.
Q.-Were your parents wealthy?
A.-Hell, no. Dad's been with the same company all his life as a bookkeeper, and Mom's a nurse. It's just they'd saved up for this a long time.
Q.-They were happily married then? You had a tranquil childhood environment?
A.-They never bothered me much. We had a good, clean house, a good car, good food, good clothes. They really loved each other a lot.
Q.-This Aunt Joan, was she your mother's sister, or your father's?
A.-Mother's! Hell, she was a beautiful woman just like Mom-only younger. Dad could never have had a sister that good looking.
Q.-I'll try not to interrupt you now, if you'll start from the point of arrival at your aunt's and tell me the whole story.
A.-Well, it's one of those little Southern towns where the only daily train still had a steam engine back in 1955. I got there at noon and Aunt Joan was aat the station to meet me. She was a smart woman and had been to college and was cashier of the town bank. She gave me a big kiss and had her colored girl drive me to the house to unpack, while she went back to work.
That night, she had some people over to supper to show me off. Her boss, the president of the bank, had his 15-year-old daughter there, and the idea was that we were supposed to hit it off and date some that summer. Aunt Joan said I could have the car anytime.
Penny was a cute kid and she liked to park. I guess I've always liked older women though. I tried to do it with Penny twice, but I couldn't get (an erection).
With Aunt Joan, it was different. She came down after noon Saturday to join Penny and I at the country club pool, and my eyes liked to have jumped out of my head. Damn, that woman had a body! She was built big, but it was all in the right places and twice her share in the bosom. Oh, I got (an erection) right there, let me tell you.
Q.-Did your aunt notice it?
A.-I think she did, because she smiled right after I looked down at my trunks and blushed. Damn, the legs that woman had on her. Damn, I was a hot-blooded kid then! Whew!
Well, after a couple of weeks ... after we'd done just about everything you could do in that town--seen the movie, gone fishing, been to a couple of dinner parties and a dance at the club-Aunt Joan and I were taking a sunbath in the; backyard one Saturday. The colored girl was off and Aunt Joan asked if I thought my folks would mind if she gave me a comfort drink.
Man! That stuff is a hundred proof and goes down smooth. It was great. I got the mellow mood and moved my deck chair right up to hers and gave her a kiss. She kidded about it and we got to talking. She asked me all about Penny and how I was making out with her. That embarrassed me, so I fought it off by saying I couldn't stand the kid. Actually, she had a sweet body and nice breasts.
The first ... I guess the first thing that happened ... I mean the hot feeling ... when I knew we were headed down the path that had to ... well, end with sex some way, was when we held hands. It just happened while we were sitting there. My arm was hanging down at the side of the chair and so was hers. I felt her hand, and we grabbed for one another's hands. She squeezed mine and rubbed my palm with her finger. She smiled at me like ... like she knew that I knew and I knew that she knew ... that gave me a big (erection). This time she looked right down at it, and then back at me.
My blood was pumping like mad and I was breathing heavy. I watched the way her big breasts rose and fell with her breathing. And ... and we were still thinking about what I'd said about Penny, I guess, because she looked at me real serious ... like I was all at once an adult she could talk to. And she says, 'Have you never made love with a girl?'
I gulped and told her honestly I hadn't. I told her I'd never seen a girl naked except in pictures. She let go my hand and she started to get up. She says, 'I'm going in to take a shower, darling.'
I didn't know what to make of it. Oh, hell I wanted to follow her right in there and get in the shower with her. I was too scared, too damn scared and excited. Then I remembered real quick about the tool shed. It was right opposite the bathroom window and the cracks in it were big enough to see right through. See, the shower was in the tub, and the window was right over the tub.
It was all country and woods in back of the house, and in the summer the blinds were always open. At least I'd always left them open when I bathed. Damn, that was something! I watched Aunt Joan pull off the top of that two-piece and my (penis) stood right up. She rubbed up her big breasts something terrific in the shower. I was masturbating and just about to (ejaculate), when I knocked over a rake and a hoe and it made a helluva noise.
Aunt Joan made out like she didn't hear. But she called out the window that she was through and I could come take mine if I wanted. When I walked through the house, her bedroom door was open and she was standing in front of her closet door mirror-naked.
I stood there and gaped. She turned to face me. Her tummy was nice. That's funny, I noticed her tummy. It was so smooth and white until the bright red patch of hair began. I like to have bust a gut! Aunt Joan's first words were, 'Now that you've seen a woman naked, are you disappointed?'
Her voice was soft ... all soft and ... furry. I swallowed, but I couldn't say anything. And then I mumbled something about taking a shower 'together.' I blushed because I hadn't meant to say that. I was still thinking it, but I hadn't meant to say it.
We got in the tub together and stood up facing each other while the water came down on us. I rubbed my hand across her smooth tummy. I tell you I don't know why, but I just slid my fingers all over her tummy and thought how nice and smooth it was, and I got (erected). I wanted to masturbate. Crazy, huh? I guess I wanted to because I didn't know how to ask her to play with me.
She kissed me first, lowered her head to me and opened her mouth. I saw her tongue slip between her lips as they met mine. Her lips were soft and relaxed ... wet. I liked it the way she moved her head around against me with her mouth open. She made noises, little sighs and all and I could feel her tongue inside my mouth.
She moved her body close and I took her breasts-oh, damn, they were big and nice-I took them in my hands ... one in each hand ... like this. She put her hand under one of them and pushed the nipple to my mouth. She was out of breath and sighing, 'It's been so long ... oh, God, it's been so long
She stroked my penis and placed it between her legs. That's all it took. I just moved a couple of times and Aunt Joan was yelling, it was so good.
We didn't even dry off ... I mean we tracked water all the way to her bedroom and got the sheets soaked. I mean ... I was just a kid getting his first piece, but I'll never forget that. Hell, I didn't last long, but there was no waiting ... well, not much waiting ... between the acts.
Three more weeks of that. I think we must have done everything.
Q.-Was there any hesitation on your part about oral relations?
A.-Hell, no! I wanted to. I mean, I wanted to (cunnilingue her). And she wanted to do me, too. I liked it then and I like it now. I'd love to see that woman again, I'll tell you. I bet she's just as beautiful and just as hot as ever.
Q.-Why don't you?
A.-Now? I'm a stud! What the hell am I gonna do, tell her I make my living screwing old ladies and fags?
Q.-Your parents don't know what you do, where you are?
A.-No ... that's all over ... the decent part of my life, I mean. After I spent that summer with
Aunt Joan, and she told me I was a born stud, I've been making my living at sex ever since. See, I've got a penis that's ten inches long and I don't tire out. I've got perfect control. Hell, I've been offered five hundred dollars to play in a sex movie in New York, and get royalties too. I can pose for fag pictures at fifty a session if I want to. You know what some women pay just to...
Q.-Well, that's a part of your life we'll have to take up some other time in a different behavioral study. Do I understand then that your experience with your aunt led you to leave home and become a 'stud,' and that you're ashamed of it?
A.-I wouldn't want my parents to know ... or my Aunt Joan.
Q.-But you're not mad at your aunt?
A.-Mad? For teaching me that life can be one big bedroom scene ... and you can get paid for it? Don't be funny. My kind of life is what most guys dream about.
PSYCHOLOGICAL COMMENT: Men may daydream at times about the life of an affluent drifter living like some roguish sheik out of the Arabian Nights, his harem running over with attractive sex objects. But few would ever really find it satisfactory after any length of time. And we seriously doubt that this man does either, regardless of what he says.
His motivation is so transparent that it gives us pause for hesitation. But the answer seems to come up the same in any analysis. He is running away from incest, not so much with his aunt as with his own mother. She was a product of the same union.
To escape the incest-wish toward his mother, he directed it at the very willing mother-image, her sister. And to escape this, he took to the life of the commercial Don Juan, a frequently traveled route in cases of this type.
The fascination that he expresses, but can't explain, for his aunt's "tummy" is an attempt to recognize that he was born of his own mother's womb. He wants to feel it to be certain she is not carrying a child, perhaps himself or a potential brother or sister, or a cousin. Even his immediate desire to cunnilingue the aunt, an extreme rarity in boys of that age, can be interpreted as a wish to return to the womb, when we consider that the aunt was a mother-image throughout.
He is not so much ashamed of seeing his aunt because she would be disapproving of what he has become. He knows full well that after their relation she would have no qualms about that. He does not want to see her because he does not want to symbolize coit with his mother again.
Farther in the background we see his parents, overly devoted to each other and letting the boy fend for himself. His mother was an exceptionally beautiful woman who never offered him the love and affection he craved in normal ways.
A sexual expression of indirect aim is often the result in these situations.