Introduction
ADULTERY, according to Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary, is defined as "Voluntary sexual intercourse by a married man with another other than his wife or by a married woman with another other than her husband." When most people think of adultery they usually assume it consists of fornication, genital-to-genital intercourse. But sex has more forms of expression than that. Oral gratification such as FELLATIO (mouthing the penis) and CUNNILINGUS (mouthing the vagina) are also acts of sexual intercourse and are just as popular as "straight" fornication. A couple can commit adultery, therefore, without ever meshing their genitals and there are a surprising number of married women who PREFER it that way.
As a psychologist with a practice in New York City, I've talked to many married women who are troubled over their sex lives. My office is wired for sound so that each of my patients has his and her story recorded on tape. I've found this to be more convenient and less distracting to the patient than constantly jotting down notes during the sessions. With tapes I am able to go over the sessions again and again at leisure. Over a period of years I've discovered that certain sexual trends have become more prominent via these tapes and one of them is the remarkable rise in ORAL adultery.
One of the reasons married women give me for indulging in fellatio and cunnilingus with men other than their husbands is a wish to avoid pregnancies. But with birth control devices so available this excuse seems hardly valid. If a woman wants to have sex with a man she can always come prepared with The Pill. Another reason women give me for having oral sex relations with strange men is that it is "less involved" than fornication. One of my patients, a middle-aged wife of a bank executive, told me that she has a passion for fellating attractive men in hallways. "It is so much easier than finding a room and taking off all your clothes for straight sex," she explains in her tape.
Fornication is almost always referred as "straight" sex by my patients as if to imply that oral acts are abnormal. Actually fellatio and cunnilingus are nearly as common as genital-to-genital intercourse. Benjamin Morse, in his book, MODERN MARRIAGE MANUAL, points out that nine out of every ten married couples engage in some form of oral sex play. My own findings agree with this figure so it is the LACK or oralism in marriage that is abnormal.
While oral sex acts in marriage are common, it is unique for women to engage in them EXCLUSIVELY in their adulterous relationships. The case histories that follow will be about such oral adulteresses. These women come from every walk of life and range in age from wives barely out of their teens to grandmothers. There is no "generation gap" where sex is concerned.
Since none of these women listed in these pages knew their stories were being taped, I am taking the liberty of disguising their identities. What follows now are the actual words of women who found pleasure in having oral sex relations with men other than their husbands. This book will prove that there is more than one way to perform adultery.
Robert Rehbei, Ph.D. New York City